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14 skills for you to build in order to manage your Anger & Stress & be Emotionally Stable

Emotional self-awareness (e.g. “it is easy for me to understand the way I feel”). Assertiveness (e.g. “it is easy for me to stand up for my right”) Self-regard (e.g. “I feel good about myself”) Independence/Flexibility (e.g. “I prefer to make decisions for me”) Empathy (e.g. “I‟m sensitive to the feelings of others”) Interpersonal relationships (e.g. …

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Other Techniques to stay cool

Opposite Action The first skill is Opposite Action, which can help you stop an intense or highly charged emotion in its tracks. Emotions often come with a specific behavior, like arguments following anger, or withdrawal resulting from sadness. However, we often assume the relationship is from the emotion to behavior, rather than the other way …

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THE STOP TECHNIQUE

Stop: Just pause for a moment. Take a breath & relax. Observe: Observe your own emotions, observe for physical cues. Put in your Perspectives: Try analyzing the situation in a different perspective. See the situation in another way? Ask yourself, Is there another way to see the same situation. What is the more reasonable action …

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ASSERTIVE TECHNIQUES

The Broken record technique There will be situations where people constantly ignore what you say, during which you can apply this technique, Repeat the same thing to the person until they listen to you. The Fogging Technique: Scenario# 1: Your manager is aggressive and accuses you for always leaving office exactly at the time you …

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Work on your Communication

What is your opinion about Communication? Is it just a medium to talk and covey messages? Certainly not, you very well know that Communication is far more than that. If I tell you Communication is the main factor that decides a person and his family‟s happiness? Will you believe it? Is there a second thought …

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Self-Assessment

What is a self-assessment? Understanding and identifying what emotions you are undergoing? Understanding the severity of your emotions. Understanding if your emotions are volatile or persistent? Also asking as many as questions to yourself like: Am I happy? What is my weakness? What are my strengths? What is going wrong, where and how? Am I …

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Learn to dissociate

Do not associate yourself in the situation/dissociate yourself from the event/experience or the situation. Let us examine these following examples: An actor acting in an emotional movie certainly will be more involved in it than the audiences who watch it in the theater. Similarly the cricket bat‟s man who is playing in the field will …

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Reconstruct your thought patterns

Reconstructing thought patterns is the gradual process where you will have to work with your belief system. Try to check what you believe and what not in your life. For example: You may believe “you are successful” or if “you are believing you”. If your belief system has a lot of negativity, then please mark …

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Use your perception

Perception is the way you see, interpret and understand a situation, an experience, an event or a person. View the situation from a different point of view. Change your perception towards the situation. Change the way you look at the particular pain point or situation. Change your perception towards the persons involved. If everybody views …

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Stop rumination/Live in the present

Rumination is often used in synonymous with overthinking or deep thinking. Thinking is an essential mechanism of brain, however rumination is considered to bring lot of stress. Let us take an understanding of what is rumination? Rumination is the complete focus and attention that any individual can give to his problems and short-comings. In other …

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EMPATHY

Empathize with the situation & people involved: Understanding what others feel, what others see and what others hear. Empathy is: It involves the ability to understand another person’s emotions and respond appropriately. It involves being able to understand another person’s mental state and what they might be thinking in response to the situation. Benefits of …

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THE POWER OF AFFIRMATIONS

Positive affirmations are very powerful because they remove your negativity, fear, worry, and anxiety. When these affirmations are repeated over and over again, they begin to change your thought process and eventually building new and positive thought patterns, slowly changing your pattern of thinking and ultimately changing your life. Can affirmations change your life? Using …

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VISUALIZATION

What is visualization? Visualization is a process where you imagine very deeply, very regularly and repeatedly whatever you want to manifest in your life. Creative visualization is a mental technique that uses the imagination, mental images, the power of your thoughts and the law of attraction, to make dreams and goals come true. Say for …

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DIVERT YOURSELF

Divert yourself from experiencing pain: Move away from the pain situation/event. Give some time. Analyze the situation. Brainstorm and find solutions. IN SHORT, WEAR A GREEN HAT. (We will discuss the green hats: Thinking hats in the next section) Relax immediately: Listen to music, go for a walk, and make yourself busy.

Accepting the Situation

Accept the situation without judging the events as good or bad and without a bias with the people involved. This does not mean that you are approving the situations and the people involved it in who were responsible for the emotional pain, we are doing so because in anger/sadness we will fail to realize and …

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Inner Organization

Now, let us see examine what is: What kind of an inner engineering we have? Now, what is the meaning of the term “Inner Engineering” / “Internal Organization”? Inner Organization is a broad term that encompasses whether we are an introvert or an extrovert? Whether we are an emotionally stable person or we are a …

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